Dealin with difficult people (Part 2)

It is of utmost importance that at this early point, we grasp the fact that eluding these people does not solve the problem in question. As earlier mentioned, these people are everywhere. There is no sanctuary they cannot invade.

Generally, the difficult person is someone who is working from the negative side of their personality and does not have a conscious desire to be difficult. The person is often unaware of themselves and how they affect others.

Everyone out there has a skirmish of some kind in life. The battles may be brutal or mild. Everyone’s threshold limit for stress is different. When that threshold is crossed they become consumed by frustration, they become difficult. They, then, reflexively project their frustration on you.

There is significant value to be achieved when we take the time to try to understand someone’s viewpoint. By changing our attitude toward them and changing our viewpoint about what makes them the way they are, we can find a wealth of knowledge to improve our own ability to work with them.

Look at it like this, If you enjoy sailing you have to get used to the pressures of the sea. The key is not to cancel your voyage but to learn to sail smoothly through highs and lows. Just as well, it is learning how to deal with a difficult person that gives you smooth sailing through a storm.

The best way to cope with difficult people is to not take what they have to say personally.

Difficult people are difficult because:

They project their inner pain on you; and you just happen to be at the wrong place at the wrong time.

They do not even experience you as you are; but only interpret you a certain way because of their limited experience of you.

They do not even see you as you are; but are only caught up in a dream state of what someone like you stirs up in them.

They do not even hear the words you say; but are only interpreting the meaning of your words according to their own hidden definition.

Thus, when you really look at it deeply, it is not wise to take things personally. Once you remain free of getting stuck in their view of you, then you can intuitively understand how to cope with the situation.