Seven things to find yourself

Here I want to tell my some personal experience about life. These experiences may be very childish and useless. But these are the things which I have learnt through my life.

Here I want to list down some steps with the help of that you can find yourself.

• Spend at least 60 minutes in a day with yourself and think about your 23 hours life which you spent that day itself.
• Don’t react immediately to what you think. Become aware of them and try to figure it out and make a decision on how to respond.
• Don’t try to change the world in one go. Know that if you want to do this; you have to start with yourself.
• Find out the things which make you happy and think about them and improve them to the next level.
• Believe that your thoughts are limited and you have seen the world up to none so don’t make judgment on the basis of your immature thoughts.
• Don’t think about the past mistakes; make sure that it would not be happen in near future.
• Take your criticism as a challenge and make those criticisms as driven power towards your destination.

After this you will be introduced to a person who is unknown to you even it is always with you. It’s not a ‘Rocket Science’ as we used to listen from our seniors. But to start this is not a easy task. We have to do it not for others only for us.

Don’t do the great things for others do it for yourself because people will learn from you in near future.

Point Of View

It is burning discussion topic among all. Difference in the point of views; I am not strong enough to explain what is point of view but I can tell what I feel about it. If you are standing on the top of mountain, you have one point of view. If you are standing in the valley below you have another.

If you are standing in the cabin of your Boss you would have a difference point of view. If you are the Boss and sitting in front of all dumbass, you will have different point of view, lol !!!!

If my mother aged forty three living in a low class family, she has one point of view about life. If you are a teenage girl living in a rough neighborhood you would have another point of view.

The difficult question is this: How personal should your opinion be? It is difficult because the best opinion would be based on your experience, values and culture. If people only based their opinions on their own point of view, democratic politics could never work. At this point we get into the rather tricky area of deciding what is best for other people; even if this is not what they want. It may need to be done.

Opinion according to point of view:

This is my personal opinion….

Looking at this from company point of view, this is my opinion…..

From the point of view of Devil values and thoughts, this would be my opinion….

It might be rather cumbersome if everyone offered multiple opinions. So we should try to merge the opinion into one personal opinion. So what is your point of view about this…...?

New year plans!!!!

I am party animal.I don’t need any reason to go for party. Every weekend I go for party and prefer to go to new places rather going to same place each every time. A good place for me is where I can get good food, drink, nice music and a dance floor as I love to dance.

As 31st is coming I am so excited about this eve because after a long time I am going to meet my all old friends together as most of them went some or the other place for job. They are going to come down to my house then we will plan where to go. I have already planed lots of surprises for them. Hope they like it!!! For this eve last weekend I purchased a beautiful evening gown, handbag it’s small in size but it looks beautiful and a pair of awesome sandals. I just want to look awesome that day. For me this New Year party is going to be awesome and awesome!!! Wish you a Very Happy New Year.

The fundamental choice- "To Think or not to Think?"

Upon returning home at the end of a work day, I sit alone and think about the day, what I have learned, how productive I have been and all that has been drilled into my head time and again about living. Be successful and make a fortune! While the fact remains that we don’t have a clue as to how to do it…

Whenever we look at an unusual and attractive construction, we see that the building is very pleasing to look at, we neglect thinking about or praising the strong foundations that hold the structure up. It is the same when we think about other people, we look at how charming and wealthy they are or how sculpted their bodies look, we do not think about how much work went into acquiring wealth or how many hours were put in at the gym to get that sculpted physique. Our thoughts are basically shallow while it is in our thoughts that the basic fundamentals of life should come in. When I talk about my life; it means that I am completely responsible for it. Either I make it or i break it.

What is essential to be a winner? What is he supposed to do? He must decide whether he wants to win in the race or just be a participating athlete. In this case it is all about primary choice.

The idea is that there are many different paths from one point to another, but there is only one path that leads you to your goal.

What is our fundamental choice?

In my opinion, our fundamental choice would be our commitment to our self; it’s all about being true to what is most important to us. All things begin with a choice. We become what we choose. So why don’t we choose to think about ourselves; there are only two options available in each and every situation arising before us… “Take it or leave it”.

In this case we have two fundamental choices “to think or not to think”.

If we consider about making a choice we have to think about primary choice that is called “Focus on Self”. Primary choice is that on which we make major decisions, creations and results. In short primary choice is all about what we wish to be. For this we have to think; it will not come all of sudden.

After primary choice we have another choice; how to go about it. Secondary choices are steps we take towards achieving those results. If we will think in a proper way only then can we take the decision.

That’s why our first thought process itself start from thinking, when we chose to think about our primary choice only then we will think further about our action plan to full fill it.

It is said “What I think is who I am”.

So the first step for any decision is to think, yet we don’t. Why are we not thinking! The reason behind it is we don’t choose to think, we have lots of excuses for it.

Most people stop when they fail in their first time decision. Rest stop after they have failed tenth time.

We forget that great people never stop until they find a way. There is always a way and you can find it if you are willing to change your approach.

On the other hand, if you are evaluating a choice where the important characteristics may be hidden, then making a fast judgment is not such a good idea. This is only possible with your fundamental choice of thinking.

Isn’t that a powerful thought? I never thought about that before I realized power of thinking.

We will get high on life! This choice of thinking creates an empowering feeling in you because you are taking control of your own life. That is not bad to start with. Try it for yourself you will end up with a loads of wonders in your life.

Parallel thinking

Whenever we make any argument we name it as thinking. The method of thinking was designed by Socrates, Plato and Aristu. Argument is an excellent method of thinking which is well served to us. When we talk about motivation, in argument the motivation may be high because it is in aggressive motivation.

If we take the example of a lawyer in a court of law will not mention points which help the defense case. We use argument not because it is wonderful method but we do not know any other method. After a long period of time most of the philosophers came with different concept of thinking named “parallel thinking”.

This method used widely in family discussion because it allows everyone to put forward their thinking. It is quite different to the ego-driven method of argument because in this method you allow everyone to take a part in discussion. Other form of argument which was named ‘battle-oriented’ treats the argument like battle cause of furious and aggressive points. In short parallel thinking is nothing but an open conversation among people to find out most promising solution of the problem. Other benefit of this type of thinking is satisfaction of the people with the solution itself. For the method of work it is essential that at any moment everyone is looking ‘in parallel’ in the same directions. So let’s start with this new concept of thinking……

Best friend...

Everyone has friends.

But best friend is one.

Who is always there to help you.

She will listen to you..

She has faith in you..

She knows your secrets..

Sometimes she can blackmail you for treats..

But she will never leak your secrets..

She know your dreams..

She knows your fear..

When you are weak she is there to wipe your tears..

If you are not criticized, you may not be doing much.

As kids we always feel so irritated and embarrassed and bad and what not when someone criticizes us… we fell like just giving a good piece of shit back to that person… it’s a bad feeling to go through… specially when you are criticized in front of everything…

This was when we were kids but as we grow, we understand things better and are in a good position to answer and reason every happening… this is when I realized…. Only when you do something.. you might go wrong… only when you are doing something.. people will get a chance to criticize you for that… and not when you don’t do anything… that’s the point… when you do nothing u just cant go wrong… as there is nothing to go wrong about… same way people will only criticize only when you are putting your efforts to do something…

To Chase? Or To Run?

When I got confidence, the stage was gone.

When I feared losing, it was I who won.

When I needed people the most, they left me all alone.

When I learnt to dry my tears, I found shoulder to cry on.

Life was never the way I wanted it to be. But it was always better when I left chasing the best. I learnt it from my experience that till the time you chase the things you love, they run away from you. And when you start running away, they start chasing you. It depends on you, which side you select!

I am just an expression

I am just an expression..

I can’t speak..

I can’t express what I feel..

Why I am mum that I don’t know..

No words can express me..

Hope you know who I AM…

Its Me Again...

Had forgotten to Smile

Smile for no reason

For every reason

Cos i want to

Cos they smiled at me

Cos they liked me

Had forgotten to Smile for no reason ‘cos they wanted me to accept the happiness through their perspective.

Had forgotten to be with myself

Cos was been told being yourself means following others heart

Had forgotten to listen to myself

It was too noisy to hear my own voice

It was too demanding to accept my wish

My wish is important too

It was too courageous to be myself cos they say not to be

It was too difficult to be my own

Was difficult to be normal

Was difficult to be natural

Was difficult to being human

Was difficult being ME

Cos they told me i will be selfish to do so

Here i am again

Child in me still alive

Wanting more to live

Smiling with the life

Loving being myself

Loving being imperfect yet accepted

Accepted by self

Scars have the power to remind you that the past is REAL..!

“My dear Will, you must be healed by now... on the outside at least, I hope you're not too ugly. What a collection of scars you have. Never forget who gave you the best of them, and be grateful, our scars have the power to remind us that the past was real. We live in a primitive time, don't we, Will? Neither savage nor wise. Half measures of the curse of it, any rational society will either kill me or put me to some use. Do you dream much, Will? I think of you often.”

Your old friend, Hannibal Lector.

This ones from the movie Red Dragon

……..is it not so true… whenever we look at our scars or wounds or marks that were left behind after an accident injury… does it not remind us of that exact moment when it had just happened to us…. Oh yes at times just the thought of it make shivers run down our body…..

“Oh this one… I just got it when I got myself scratched working in the garage yesterday.…” these scars might be just temporary ones… but think of the ones we got when we met with an accident. And while describing about the accident to our friends we end up showing them the exact scar…. And the reaction as always…”Oh it must have been really bad…”. Well that’s exactly what a scar does… it takes you back to the old memories as if it just happened… and so… Scars have the power to remind you that the past is REAL..!

Poker

There are numerous variations; the necessary equipment to play is simple, and lucky winners may even earn a buck or two. Poker is believed to have developed from a 16th century Persian card game known as Âs Nas. This game was played using 25 cards of 5 different suits and was similar to modern 5 card stud. When Europeans began to play the game they called it porque (French) or pochen (German).

The Origins of Today’s Game

While the origins may somewhere in the Europe and the middle east, POKER : The Modern Game, beyond doubt developed in the United States of America.

Poker was played all through New Orleans in the 1800s and spread quickly across the Western frontier. The West was full of travelers & speculators. Gambling was enjoyed by both!!!.

Poker playing along with gambling became a profession as well as a game and was very well-liked on riverboats. In the early days, Poker played with only one round of betting, five cards dealt face down and with no draw. Gamblers in due course customized these rules to make the game more lucrative. The draw was added and wild cards and bluffing became regular practice after 1850.

I hate myself

When I see you crying

When I am unable to present myself in the crowd

When people overlooked me due to my age

When people don’t want to listen my point of view

When I come to know that you are in love with other

To believe in you blindly

When I hurt you without reason

When I am unable to decide my way

When I took decision and it gives me crisis back

To take frequently wrong decision

When I am unable to justify myself

When I am unable to full fill my friend expectations

When I am unable to solve your problem

When I can’t help you when you needed it more

Because I was not there to wipe your tears

Finally I hate myself for loving you 

because I am unable to tell my heart that you are not mine. 

You will leave me any day and go beyond my limits. 

I can’t hate you because I love you the thing which I can….

I can hate myself

Experiment with Lies III

Ok, so then I take it that you have gotten over your habit of Justification. Now the time comes of really getting the “lie” part going.

One thing of vital remembrance is that words have meanings. It is not that people (yes even you) forget it, its just that they don’t know how to use it. For eg. Its always better to say correct instead of right in a discussions as the word “correct” implies that what the speaker is saying follows the standard norms while the word “right” is used to give conformation about a particular aspect. Hence if you really want to change the dynamic of the discussion try using the word “correct”. Also when you say or hear the word “correct” notice how the speaker suddenly is looked at as an authority or gains an edge and command over the rest. Invariably the rest will look to him/her for approval, and that is exactly what you must want in a discussion. (course this is not for general friendly “what should be the Govt’s next step…” discussion).

The reason this is of importance is the mind frame that you get. Always have it that you will speak what is meant and never use the phrase “what I meant to say…” A lie has to be said in to the point and with the least words, as the more words the more tension the more chances that you will lose the grip on yourself. Plus the surroundings are not for a story. A simple yes/no decorum is to be followed for you do not want to be remembered and what you said to linger in the minds of those that question.

Your lie is always going to be a reaction to the question. Make sure that you speak in that manner. The error in most of the “thought out” lies is that it feels, seems, sounds like even tastes like it was thought of. That the answer was ready. The great liar will not use this method. He will in fact sound as if he cant believe that he’s being questioned. Reaction.

The “idea of a plan” will give you exactly that kind of mind-set. Since you have NOT thought of an escape route you will and must want to fall in the whole. For only then can you be allowed to behave, act, react in an innocent person manner.

You will ask.. .WHY?

Because it is only the innocent that fall into a trap that the guilty have already and hence try to avoid. The persons who are not in the picture are only lost. Hence we must want to be in the trap, for then we have substance and when we have substance, we shall find a way.

Next post… breaking down the real “lie”.

I took so long

Every month I just wait for my salary so that I can go for shopping. Every month I spend at least 30% of my salary on shopping on an average I am talking about my expenditure on shopping. I mostly go for clothes sometimes footwear and purse. Usually I take 2 hr to shop but yesterday broke my record. I couldn’t believe myself I took 5 hrs just to select a pair of formal shirt and a pant. Thank God I went alone this time because other might have gone mad at me. Shopping is my hobby and when I like something I make sure I take right stuff at home and make no mistake. Shopping is something by which I will never get bored. I am waiting for my Nov salary.